No one talks to you more than yourself, so why not say something positive? Join Darren Cde Baca as he shares his insights on the power of positive self-talk. Darren talks about how self-talk can impact your life in a positive way, and helps foster self-improvement. He shares techniques in using self-talk in breeding creativity and freedom, and how it helps your physical health improve as well. Learn how positive self-talk can help you on your path to Decide, Commit, and Become.
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The Power Of Self Talk
"Knock, knock.” “Who's there?” “Says.” “Says who?” “Says me, that's who." I love that one. That's been around for so long. Why am I even saying that one? Because that's the topic of our discussion. It's self-talk, "Says me, that's who." This is going to be a tremendous amount of fun. Thanks for tuning in. Hopefully, you have an opportunity to take some notes because there are going to be dynamic gems that are going to be thrown out. If you're not taking notes, don't be afraid to come back and read this again, and get some of these notes to craft into your daily vision, weekly vision or desires to achieve some wonderful goals as you see fit.
We're going to be talking about the power of self-talk. Who's the person you talk to the most during the day? It’s yourself. You're the one answering all the questions, riddles, rhymes and to-dos. You challenge yourself. You make conclusions. You drive yourself one way or the other, negative or positive. You're the one. If that's the case then why don't we learn some toolsets about the power of self-talk? I'm going to share with you the resemblance and the correlation of the power of self-talk to the phrase that defines DCB Strategies in our work regarding Decide, Commit, Become. Here's the phrase, "Being the best in their field and the average in their field have nothing in common."
Say that to yourself once, "Being the best and average have nothing in common." If you say that to yourself, intuitively, your brain is going to ask you, "Where do you fall on that side, the best or average? In what category, professional, personal, health-wise?" That’s the power of your brain when you feed it positive energy through self-talk, "Being the best and average have nothing in common." At DCB Strategies and Decide, Commit, Become, I am so excited about giving you tools to become your best. This is exactly why we're bringing up the topic of the power of self-talk.
Let me share with you some of the individuals I've seen out there over the years in the professional world and then related to the corporate world about self-talk. It's interesting to note that I was looking up this piece called Empower Your Mindset and Habitset With Self-Talk. At DCB Strategies, we talked about the importance of the decide, which is occupied by your mindset and the vital link of the commitment, which is the entry to a new habit set. Both of those are fueled up constantly by self-talk. Many clients I've had had the a-ha moment. The light went on. Their life changed around when they started to incorporate the habit of positive self-talk. Professional athletes are known to use self-talk all the time. Russell Wilson and Tom Brady, both NFL and Super Bowl quarterbacks. Kobe Bryant, RIP and Michael Jordan, do we need to say more about those two individuals on self-talk? Aaron Judge, a phenomenal young man with the New York Yankees, as a rookie he broke all kinds of records. Nick Faldo, the legend in golf and many of their counterparts in the sports too all use self-talk at their best levels. That's one reason they power themselves to the top.
When we take a look at CEOs in the corporate world, sales teams, cultures, individuals, even people who are into a health kick and their health habits, even when you're practicing the balance of life. Here are some examples of that set of individuals and what they would use in self-talk. Here are some phrases. You may want to write a couple of them down. Here's one. If you're a driven person or if the person wants to be more driven, they're constantly saying to themselves, "I strive to achieve and succeed." If they want to be creative, they say to themselves, "I look at things from different angles." If you want to change something, change the way you look at it. You say that to yourself and it eases the burden of trying to figure that angle out if it doesn't agree with your mantra of becoming positive.
Here's another one. If you're building great teams, you say to yourself, "I understand the value and power of a team." Once you turn that on, there's a part of your brain that comes in and freely adapts creativity and ways to exercise that self-talk. It freely adapts and powers you up in ways to exercise that self-talk and where you want to go with it. If someone wants to be focused, they constantly say to themselves, "I do what's most important and valuable." Here's another one, "I am organized and disciplined." If they say this to themselves three times a day, things happen. Let me give you an example. All positive personal change begins with these types of positive messages. When we talk to ourselves so frequently for the day, use this free card. Scientifically, positive affirmations are the cornerstone of behavior modification. Let's improve our subconscious software code and use this free card of self-talk to power our brains in the most beneficial and the best ways for our personal and professional growth.
Why positive self-talk? Let's hit that again. It's interesting to note that the human brain becomes more relaxed when you feed it with positive self-talk. As you now become aware of 1 of the 2, compare negative thoughts to positive thoughts and you'll see that negative thoughts increase anxiety levels. We don't want to do that. Anxiety levels crush creativity, freedom and confidence. We want to create excitement that breaks barriers, happiness, calm, which motivates creativity, motivates us to succeed and motivates us to look past at obstacle illusions. We got to take care of the way we talk to ourselves because we're the ones who are listening. Remember, "Knock, knock.” “Who's there?” “Says.” “Says who?” “Says me, that's who." It's common for us to have conversations with ourselves all day long.
Let's use this self-talk in a powerful way, performing daily tasks, judging, making observations or motivating ourselves. There's so much during the day you can catch yourself, making sure that you are changing that switch from negative to positive self-talk. It's an internal narrative for sure and we're going to hold ourselves accountable if we choose. It's a choice. This isn't rocket science as I mentioned in the past in one of my episodes. This is an effort, a choice to internally change the direction of our thought. It's the inner voice that we're going to give more attention to positive self-talk and influences the world around us because it influences us and the way we look at things.
It also draws a line in the sand from what I've observed from individuals, elite performers and their activities and the way they achieve things and their confidence and so forth. There's a line in the sand between failure and success. Their powerful and positive self-talk changes their entire mindset. That's it. It just changes their powerful mindset to will themselves to positive actions. Not "I can do this," but "I am doing this." That in turn, “will, not can,” have a massive impact on the success of any journey that they take. There's a line in the sand, self-talk positive, self-talk negative. Choose the side you want to be on and practice it.
It's important that we do practice because practice makes progress and it creates habit. At Decide, Commit, Become, the heart and soul of DCB Strategies work, we are creating a new habit and this is the main thrust of committing. You're creating new actions, repeating them, and this repetition creates this new habit that puts you on the right side of the line in the sand per se. Here's an exercise you can try. Spend a few days observing or spend it now because I think a lot of you are willing to pop out of any negative thoughts right away. Spend now or in the next few days observing your inner dialogue. Is it more negative or positive? Identify the negative dialogue and then start to learn how to challenge your negative thoughts. Switch on the positive. As you identify some of these negative thoughts and switching to positive self-talk, you'll immediately feel the difference.
Let me give you some thoughts about the benefit of positive self-talk in terms of our own human health. It helps reduce stress. It helps boost confidence and resilience. It betters our relationships. It empowers others around us. If we can do it, they can too. You're setting the example. We stop comparing ourselves to others. I have a great focus line that I have on positive self-talk, "If I create my own lane, there's no traffic." It’s not, "If I am creating my own lane, therefore, there's no traffic." You're empowering yourself and not comparing yourself to others. You have a better understanding of yourself. You have clarity of your vision when you set positive self-talk. Your positive attitude is going to be a tremendous toolset and coping mechanism when faced with challenges or problems.
Let me give you some examples of positive self-talk in the corporate world or your world of personal health, personal growth or whatever you're interested in. Here are some examples of some attributes in self-talk. As I mentioned about driven, if the attribute of being driven is, "I am internally motivated," that's a phenomenal self-talk phrase. If you have an attribute of wanting to be more passionate, say to yourself positive self-talk, "I stay active, energized and excited." Say that 4 or 5 times during your day and see what happens. If you're growing and you're open-minded, you want to say to yourself, "I'm open to new ideas and strategies." You say that to yourself every day, as many times as you want. You're going to turn on the side of your brain that opens up the freedom of creativity and going in that direction. If you want to be more persistent thus you don't want to get off track in creating new actions or new habits, "I drive through rejection or fatigue." Here's another one, "I overcome obstacle illusions." We call them obstacle illusions at DCB Strategies.
If it's skills that you want to focus on or that you want to be better at, here's something to put into your brain and if you're thinking about learning and adapting quickly and you want to tell your positive self-talk about that, "I am a constant student of my profession." If you want to build great teams, "I support and inspire my teammates." That's fine but your brain is going to ask you, "How? Let's do it. Let's get it done. Let's go. Show it." Guess what happens? Creativity occurs. If you want to grow, "I make growth a top priority for me and my team." Saying that to yourself will turn on a whole dialogue of what needs to be done as a follow-up.
Self-talk allows our freedom to be creative and thus go after setting up bold goals with a state of mind that is excited, that has a purpose. Self-talk is all present focus. It's not, "I shoulda, coulda, woulda in the past," and "I will. I could. I will. I need to get to that." It's all I am. "I lavish praise and credit for success. I seek constant self-improvement. I bring order to chaos and confusion." These are all present focus. Once you start putting yourself into that decide zone, then it's easier to have a strategy of, "We are building a great sales team in the next six months." The actions are driven by the self-talk to create new habits for that team to be built every day. The persistence required to stay on track is self-talk also.
It's intertwined, not to be confusing. Let's break it down and make it simpler. We have one side of the line, which is positive self-talk and the other one is negative. We have a choice. Positive turns on our deliberate side of our brain. Negative put us back into our default side of our brain. That's the comfort zone. The comfort zone does not breed creativity and freedom. The deliberate side does in multiple ways. Plus, this proof provides benefits to our health as we've talked about. The choice is, "I am incorporating positive self-talk," or "I don't need it." Everybody can use some positive self-talk at any point in their life. Ask the most successful people around you how they treat themselves and how they talk to themselves, and then those in the sports world, how they talk to themselves at a constant level of high performance.
Let's wind it up. I think we hit it hard about positive self-talk is the key to any successful path and direction. It sets off action steps towards achievement and successfully enjoying your goals. It's incredibly important. If you can change the voice in your mind, you can do anything. Here's another comment we use at DCB Strategies frequently, "The way we do anything is the way we do everything." That's positive self-talk. Thank you for joining me. I am so excited that you took the time to read this to create a new path of positive self-talk for you, set the stage of the reasoning behind it, create a path of more ease and healthy benefits for you, and embrace the enjoyment and the calmness on taking that small step in the right direction to achieve your goal.
If you want to see more about the applications of our work at DCB Strategies and how we incorporate these, please take a look at our website DCBStrategies.com or contact me and I can send you this piece that I wrote on this called Empower Your Mindset and Habitset With Self-Talk. Email me at Podcast@DCBStrategies.com. As I say always in my episodes, stay healthy, stay passionate and now, practice your positive self-talk. Have a great day.
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